Grieving – Experiencing A Loss

Grieving. Experiencing a loss.

We all grieve in are own way, and in our own pace, in our own time, short or long. Always, we need to respect and honor ourselves in how we go through experiencing grief. Honor where we are; how we grieve; how we feel, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually; how we take care of ourselves during this time; and how we reach out to others for help, if and when we need it.

Losses

We grieve over a loss. And a loss can be experienced in many different ways. Such as:

• A death – parent, baby, child, relative, friend, pet
• A loss of a job – firing, resigning, downsizing, restructuring
• A move – changing one’s place of residency, a friend moving away, moving to another country, loss of a house/home
• A grown child moving out, or going to college/another city for work/enlisting in the military
• A divorce, separation, or a relationship ending
• A situation, event or even how you respond to something that is different than you thought or wanted it to be
• A change in the political climate
• A loss of income
• An illness – of oneself or a loved one
• A war
• A natural disaster – a friend years ago lost her house in a fire

A Woman

Years ago, a woman came to me for homeopathy because she was having bouts of diarrhea in the morning. She was also feeling very anxious about herself, her job, and her health. Her husband had died a few years earlier. Their marriage had not been so good at the time of his death. She mentioned that there had been times that she had wished he had had an accident and would die, and then he did die. She was feeling guilty about having had those thoughts about him. She also had experienced other losses in her life: family members who were ill or had died, an abortion, and that she would not have another child.

Along with feeling guilty about her feelings towards her husband, she had other persistent thoughts and feelings. She wondered what people thought of her, and was worried about making a mistake. She attended a women’s support group, and went for other help, but felt that it basically came down to her, to do the work to heal. There was a sense of aloneness about her, and she had difficulty receiving consolation from others.

I gave her the homeopathic remedy Natrum muriaticum. This homeopathic remedy is often used for people who are grieving. Grief was part of why I gave her this remedy, but the remedy also fit the wholeness of her.

I was in touch with her for several months after she took the homeopathic remedy. She was feeling better: the anxiety was better; the diarrhea was better; and she was looking at her feelings regarding her husband in a much more self nurturing way. Not only was she grieving her husband’s death, but also the life she had thought she would have. During our time together, she remarked that just having this space where she could talk and experience what she was feeling deep within, was very helpful.

Not Straight Forward

The process of grieving is not usually straight forward. We may lose someone, something, an opportunity, a way of life that we thought we would have, and many different feelings and responses may occur from this loss. We may experience physical complaints along with the emotions of grief. I think often, when we lose someone we start to look at that relationship, as this woman did, and feelings come up about it, such as guilt, shoulds, responsibility, sadness, blame, anger, fear, happiness and joy.

We may need some help in the process of grieving. We may see a homeopath, a counselor/therapist, a rabbi/minister, a massage therapist, an energy medicine practitioner, an acupuncturist, other healing practitioners, or a good friend. We find our way, taking time for ourselves, doing activities that we enjoy, and being patient with ourselves. We are healing.

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If you feel that homeopathy could be of help for you, please contact me here or through my website, www.homeopathytoheal.com. I would be happy to talk with you.

 

 

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Homeopathy – Healing Children

Homeopathy is wonderful for children’s health care.  Whether the child is experiencing ongoing health issues or acute colds and stomachaches, homeopathy is very helpful. In the healing with homeopathy, the immune system of the child is strengthened, so the health issue is not occurring as much and finally lessens all together.

Some ongoing health concerns that children experience:

• Chronic ear infections
• Asthma
• Eczema or other skin eruptions
• Allergies
• Behavioral issues
• ADD/ADHD – see post on ADD/ADHD
• Autism spectrum
• Stomachaches
• Constipation
• Diarrhea
• Difficulty sleeping and nightmares
• Fears
• Coughs
• Headaches
• Recurring colds, sore throats
• Childhood disease – measles, chicken pox, mumps, whooping cough, German measles.

I would like to tell you about a patient of mine who I have seen for several years. When he first came to me, he was eight years old. When Joe (not his real name) was playing baseball, he would experience the need to cough when he stopped running. Joe said, “It is weird to have so much mucus in my throat. Coughing gets more mucus. I stop coughing and the mucus goes away.” His mother had taken Joe to the doctor who had suggested using an inhaler for the cough. His mother did not want to do that. She had used homeopathy before, and wanted to see how homeopathy could help Joe.

Joe talked about feeling scared at night when he heard noises in the house. “There could be burglars. If I knew what it was, it wouldn’t be so scary. You can get taken. I would have to scream and kick around. The person doing that would not like it.” His mother said that during the evening, Joe would frequently get out of bed to ask her about the sounds, as well as asking when his father was coming home, if his father was away on a business trip. His mother would give an explanation, but Joe would be back again asking about the noises. His mother described Joe as needing a lot of reassurance, and being very cautious. She said that he checks first with an adult, and then does whatever he was going to do. He doesn’t answer the phone because it might be someone he doesn’t know.

On car trips, Joe gets extremely carsick. He also is sensitive to the heat. His head and stomach hurt, he feels dizzy, and he throws up. He gets very upset when friends pretend they will hit him and then stop. “It is unfair and mean.” To him, it is a huge thing. He can’t let it go.

After taking the homeopathic remedy that was most similar to what he was experiencing, Joe was not coughing after running, and the sensation of mucus in his throat was gone. In fact, when visiting the doctor after the first dose of the remedy, the doctor could no longer hear anything in his lungs. Joe was falling asleep easier at night, and was not getting up at night to ask questions. He was no longer experiencing carsickness, and his sensitivity to the heat also decreased. And when Joe and his family were vacationing in Hawaii, every morning Joe went up to the the desk clerk and asked for the sports section of the newspaper.

Over the years, Joe has had doses of the homeopathic remedy when it was needed. Sometimes, his sensitivity to heat has come back, or other acute situations have occurred. This is when a dose was given. He has though no longer experienced the coughing and the sensation of mucus in his throat.  Homeopathy heals the whole person. With Joe, the mucus in the throat and the coughing were better, as well as other aspects of him, his emotional state and other physical symptoms.  Homeopathy heals the person.