I wrote a post about caregivers awhile ago. You can read that post here. I want to continue to write on this topic – taking care of yourself when you are taking care of a loved one.
When taking care of someone, we may very often put our own needs aside. We may say I don’t need to have down time, or sleep as much, or eat a good meal, or go for a walk, or ask for help. How can I ask for help, if I am the one who is the helper?
- Mothers of new born babies, young children, teenagers, young adults.
- Adult children taking care of their parents.
- A partner taking care of their sick partner.
- A family member (aunt, brother, niece, grandparent, uncle) taking care of another family member.
- A father taking care of his children.
- A parent – father or mother – financially being supportive of their family.
- A friend who offers help and assistance
- A health care practitioner who cares, listens and helps people.
- An educator.
Basically a care giver is anyone who is caring for another person. Care giving is not only in helping someone with their physical needs, but also helping them emotionally, financially, with their education, feeling responsible for them, and more.
As a care giver, it is really important to take care of yourself. And so very often we put ourselves on the back burner. It is giving a hand to ourselves, as well as our loved one.
On A Personal Note
For me it is hard to hear or see when someone I love is in pain, doesn’t sleep well, doesn’t like what is happening in their life, is hurting physically or emotionally, is not getting their needs met, is stressed out about their life, or is falling down, literally. I want to help them immediately. I want to make it all better for them, even wanting the situation to go away completely.
Most of the time, I can’t really do this. I can’t make it all better, right away. At these times, I need to acknowledge and honor myself, my needs, my feelings, my responses, and say “it is okay that I feel this way”. And then move forward, to do what I need to do for my loved one, and for myself. And sometimes, for the loved one, it is just being with them, being there, and not really doing anything.
Taking Care Of Yourself
There may be activities or daily practices that you enjoy and help you in your life. Some of these could be taking a walk, being in nature, meditating, doing a creative activity, gardening, having a good cry, venting to someone, receiving a hug, talking to a close friend or therapist, seeing a good movie, taking a break, getting as much sleep as you can, having a massage, treating yourself to a good meal,having a good piece of chocolate and more.
Homeopathy can also be of help. If you are in a situation that is a prolonged care taking situation, and is difficult for you, you may want to see a homeopath for help. It will not just be help for a physical issue, but for what this situation means to you. We all have our own sensitivities, and very often when there is a stressful situation, our sensitivities are exasperated and come to the fore, expressed or manifested in physical symptoms, emotional responses, or just not feeling well.
When we are healthy, we are in a better place to handle the different situations that life brings to us. We are still affected by the situation and respond to them. But we are able to right ourselves, and know that we need to do the things that help ourselves, such as saying, I need to take a break, I need a day off, I need to ask for help. In the long run, this helps our loved ones as well.
Whatever kind of care giving you are doing, I invite you to contact me if you would like some help. Either contact me here through this blog or through my website www.homeopathytoheal.com.