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More About Grieving And Loss – Homeopathy Helps In The Healing

I have written about grieving in a prior post. I thought about just re-sending that post, but wanted to add a few more thoughts about grieving.

Grief is a feeling, the emotion we experience when we lose something or someone. We feel grief over a loss.

Crying helps. Talking to a friend. Expressing your anger in a constructive way. Taking a bath. Receiving and giving a hug. Creating something. Being out in nature. Basically, being kind to and taking care of yourself.

As a homeopath, I don’t necessarily see people who come in and say I am grieving, and need help for this loss. I take the case, witnessing with the patient what is bothering them. Sometimes a loss is expressed and shared with me. And the person may be grieving for this loss. A loss can be:

  • A death – parent, baby, child, spouse, significant other, relative, friend, pet
  • A loss of a job – firing, resigning, downsizing, restructuring, retiring
  • A move – changing one’s place of residency, a friend moving away, moving to another country, loss of a house/home
  • A grown child moving out, or going to college/another city for work/enlisting in the military
  • A divorce, a separation, or a relationship ending
  • A situation, event or even how you respond to something that is different than what you thought or wanted it to be
  • A change in the political climate
  • A change in your life – such as becoming a parent, getting married. The change event can be a good and happy one, but there may be some reactions or responses (losses) to these changes.
  • A loss of income
  • An (ongoing) illness – of oneself or a loved one, an aging parent, a pet
  • A war
  • A natural disaster – a friend years ago lost her house in a fire
  • A restriction, lock down, or lack of freedom – such as we have just been experiencing all over the world
  • A possibility or plan change – something we had been looking forward to isn’t happening, a relationship with a person that won’t happen
  • I am sure there are other losses

At first the loss is mentioned as the person is talking and telling me about themselves, Weight of grief made by artist Celeste Robergeabout how they feel what bothers them, and about their past. The loss is almost mentioned as an aside. Very often, I have noticed that what is bothering them, what brought them to homeopathy started when they experienced this loss. And the loss could have happened several years ago, and has had a lingering effect on the person. The loss could be considered a trauma.

(I came across this photo of this sculpture made by the artist Celeste Roberge on Facebook. It conveys the feelings of grief. Heaviness. Weighted  down. Unable to move. Feeling trapped. Google her to see more of her work.)

Two Women

I want to tell you about two women I have seen who have experienced a loss in their lives.

One woman has been feeling indifferent and apathetic to her life, not wanting to do anything. She is used to being in a work situation that is filled with people, and being involved with working with people together, as a team. She had recently retired. She no longer has this environment. It is a loss for her. It is something that she had always valued, and she misses it. She doesn’t necessarily say it this way, but that is what is expressed. This loss is an important part of her case, telling a lot about her as a person, along with the physical issues that are bothering her.

Another woman had a significant family member pass away. For her, not having this person in her life is very difficult. She has felt since the loss of this person, a numbness, a sense of being scattered, a difficulty focusing, fatigue, and digestive issues.

There is a lot more to each of these two women. I mention them here, because I want to point out that grief and feeling a loss of something, of someone, or of an environment in one’s life, can have an effect on our lives. The person is grieving, and missing what was – a person, an event, a possibility and more.

Homeopathy To Heal

Homeopathy can be part of one’s healing process when they are going through the feeling of grief, and have experienced a loss. There are also therapists, counselors, grief recovery specialists and other healing practitioners. If I can be of help, please contact me here or through my website www.homeopathytoheal.com. I offer a complimentary 15+ minute Get Acquainted Phone Call to see if this is a fit.


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Grieving – Experiencing A Loss

Grieving. Experiencing a loss.

We all grieve in are own way, and in our own pace, in our own time, short or long. Always, we need to respect and honor ourselves in how we go through experiencing grief. Honor where we are; how we grieve; how we feel, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually; how we take care of ourselves during this time; and how we reach out to others for help, if and when we need it.

Losses

We grieve over a loss. And a loss can be experienced in many different ways. Such as:

  • A death – parent, baby, child, relative, friend, pet
  • A loss of a job – firing, resigning, downsizing, restructuring
  • A move – changing one’s place of residency, a friend moving away, moving to another country, loss of a house/home
  • A grown child moving out, or going to college/another city for work/enlisting in the military
  • A divorce, separation, or a relationship ending
  • A situation, event or even how you respond to something that is different than you thought or wanted it to be
  • A change in the political climate
  • A loss of income
  • An illness – of oneself or a loved one
  • A war
  • A natural disaster – a friend years ago lost her house in a fire

A Woman

Years ago, a woman came to me for homeopathy because she was having bouts of drawing- pigletdiarrhea in the morning. She was also feeling very anxious about herself, her job, and her health. Her husband had died a few years earlier. Their marriage had not been so good at the time of his death. She mentioned that there had been times that she had wished he had had an accident and would die, and then he did die. She was feeling guilty about having had those thoughts about him. She also had experienced other losses in her life: family members who were ill or had died, an abortion, and that she would not have another child.

Along with feeling guilty about her feelings towards her husband, she had other persistent thoughts and feelings. She wondered what people thought of her, and was worried about making a mistake. She attended a women’s support group, and went for other help, but felt that it basically came down to her, to do the work to heal. There was a sense of aloneness about her, and she had difficulty receiving consolation from others.

I gave her the homeopathic remedy Natrum muriaticum. This homeopathic remedy is often used for people who are grieving. Grief was part of why I gave her this remedy, but the remedy also fit the wholeness of her.

I was in touch with her for several months after she took the homeopathic remedy. She was feeling better: the anxiety was better; the diarrhea was better; and she was looking at her feelings regarding her husband in a much more self nurturing way. Not only was she grieving her husband’s death, but also the life she had thought she would have. During our time together, she remarked that just having this space where she could talk and experience what she was feeling deep within, was very helpful.

Not Straight Forward

The process of grieving is not usually straight forward. We may lose someone, something, an opportunity, a way of life that we thought we would have, and many different feelings and responses may occur from this loss. We may experience physical complaints along with the emotions of grief. I think often, when we lose someone we start to look at that relationship, as this woman did, and feelings come up about it, such as guilt, shoulds, responsibility, sadness, blame, anger, fear, happiness and joy.

We may need some help in the process of grieving. We may see a homeopath, a counselor/therapist, a rabbi/minister, a massage therapist, an energy medicine practitioner, an acupuncturist, other healing practitioners, or a good friend. We find our way, taking time for ourselves, doing activities that we enjoy, and being patient with ourselves. We are healing.

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If you feel that homeopathy could be of help for you, please contact me here or through my website, www.homeopathytoheal.com. I would be happy to talk with you.