Having “Difficulties”

 t   Part of this is a re – post.

Several years ago, I was attending a meeting in which I was introducing myself and saying a little bit about homeopathy. I was specifically talking about a patient of mine, a young boy. I prefaced what I was saying about him, with the statement that “it is not that children are difficult, but that children are having difficulties.” I might say that this is so with any age. 

I think we say that the child is difficult because for the people around them, it may be hard to be with them. It is difficult. The child may be too noisy, too unsocial, too quiet, too loud, not fitting in, too shy, doing behaviors that are not really sociably accepting. The child may be experiencing something within themselves, in their body, that is extremely unpleasant, painful, and uncomfortable. The behaviors may be a way for the child to sooth themselves, and the discomfort they are feeling and experiencing. The child is having difficulties, and we label them difficult. 

Having difficulties applies to adults too.    

What May Be Bothering The Person And How It Shows Up

What may be bothering the person, a child or an adult: 

• An inner struggle
• Difficulty in vision, hearing, processing information, paying attention, focusing
• Environmental factors – exposure to toxins, not enough food, reaction to foods, reaction to medications or vaccines, poor environment, abuse
• A feeling, sensation or pain within them that is SO uncomfortable – physical, emotional, mental or spiritual
• Relationships – abuse (I know I mentioned this twice), family discord, parental problems, family dynamics, siblings, friends
• A physical ailment, an injury
• A physical pain
• An emotional lose or challenge
• An unknown – which we may never know

How the bothering may show up in the person:

• Anger, acting out, tantrums, biting, hitting
• Fears, terrors, anxiousness
• Sadness, withdrawal, depression
• Difficulty in friendships and relationships
• Bed wetting, frequent urination, UTI’s
• Oppositional behavior
• Frequent colds, sore throats, earaches, stomachaches, headaches, persistent or nervous coughs
• Rashes or other skin eruptions
• Allergies
• Respiratory symptoms – asthma
• Skin eruptions
• Headaches
• Difficulty concentrating and focusing
• Sleeping problems, nightmares, sleep walking
• Digestive issue – constipation, diarrhea, nausea, not want to eat, wanting to eat too much

The symptoms that the person is experiencing are signs that something is not right. We listen and witness them and use them to come to the homeopathic remedy that is needed at this time.  

A Boy With A Recurring Cough

Years ago, I saw a young boy for a recurring cough. The cough actually bothered the mother more than it bothered the boy.  When I was talking and listening to the boy, I understood that what bothered him the most was that his younger sister was the boss of him. He was older, taller, yet he felt that she was the boss of him. Unfortunately, his mother did not bring the boy back for a follow up appointment, but I found out through a friend of the family that the cough had subsided. My guess was that the boy was also feeling better about himself, and didn’t feel that his sister was the boss.

To his mom, the cough was difficult, difficult for her to hear. And she was concerned about her son’s health. For the boy, the relationship with his sister was difficult. Was the cough related to how he felt about himself when he was with his sister? Maybe. Both the cough and how he felt about himself were pieces of the totality, and led to the selection of homeopathic remedy that was used.  

Homeopathy To Heal

I receive calls from people who are having difficulties. Often, it has been something they have been experiencing for awhile. Their health issue has not resolved. They have used different healing treatments and are not better. At this point, they come to homeopathy. I always say it is a process of healing. We start where they are, and go forward, often needing different homeopathic remedies as the healing process progresses. 

If I can be of help to you or a loved one, please contact me here on this blog or through my website www.homeopathytoheal.com. I offer a complimentary 15 + minute Get Acquainted Call to see if homeopathy is a fit for you. I work with people in person and virtually in and out of the San Diego, California area. 

 

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See The Individual, Not The Label of ADD/ADHD, Nor Any Label

I have updated this post that I wrote about 6 years ago. I want to share it with you again.

We are all individuals. ADD/ADHD is a name, a label, to a long list of symptoms, behaviors and responses. When a child, and/or an adult, is not fitting in to the environment of school, of work, of life even, then very often medication is recommended by the person’s physician, and/or by the school.

Some Children I Have Seen In My Practice

Over the years, I have seen many children who have been given the label of ADD/ADHD. There may have been a commonality in that they were not doing their work at school, having difficulty focusing and attending, and were easily distracted. Some of these children were proscribed medication – some took it and some did not. I believe that all of the parents of these children were open and wanting other ways of helping their child than using medications.

As I met with the child and their parents, I heard and observed more than that the child was distracted. I believe that each child was suffering in their own way. Below is a short description of some of the children I have seen in my practice.

• One girl was constantly moving around my office, crawling on the floor, hiding behind the chairs, and going under the desk. As she was moving around and changing her position in the room, she was talking to me.
• One boy sat still in his chair. At times, while he sat in the chair, he would move his leg. He said if someone did something to him, he automatically (and he used this word automatically) started figuring out how to take revenge on this person. Sweet revenge, he said, and smiled somewhat. He would plan what he would do to this person. He experienced very frightening dreams of dark images, which he said came right up to his face. After the first dose of the homeopathic remedy, he said that the automatic feeling of needing to take revenge on someone was gone; he didn’t feel it anymore.
• One boy had the urge to just run away from where he was. He felt very poorly about himself. At school, it was difficult to focus on what needed to be done in terms of his schoolwork. He was very concerned on how he said things, because it might be hurtful to someone.
• When I first met this boy at the  door, he wanted to hide behind his mom. He also didn’t want to be videotaped. He felt embarrassed. During the school day, he was not focusing on his schoolwork. Once home, his mother needed to help him with his homework, going over the material he had learned during the day. After the first dose of the homeopathic remedy, both his mother and his teacher noticed that he was more focused on his work. His mother said that he seemed calmer.
• Another boy had angry outbursts and tantrums at home, at school, and in public areas.
• A boy who had a lot of fears at night.

There is more to each of these children than what I have written here. You can see how different each of these children are. Each child was given a homeopathic remedy that fit them, not the label of ADD/ADHD.

Healing With Homeopathy

With the healing with homeopathy, the child becomes more of who they are. The child is not changed. They become who they are fully, being curious and creative children. With the healing  process, the child no longer experiences the inner interferences that has made it difficult for them to interact in their environment, the world around them, and with their family and friends.

Although, I have written mostly about children in this post, all of this applies to teenagers and adults as well, who may have been given the label of ADD/ADHD or are taking medication. We are all individuals, and our treatment needs to fit us, not a label. The individuality of the person is what that has been given.

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I would be happy to talk to you further about yourself or a loved one who may have been given the label of ADD/ADHD or if there is another health issue they are experiencing. You can contact me here on this blog or through my website www.homeopathytoheal.com. I see people both virtually and in person. I offer a complimentary 15+ Get Acquainted Call.

Adults Wanting Help With “ADHD” – Homeopathy Heals

Recently, a woman asked me if homeopathy can help someone who has ADHD.  I said yes, and asked who she was talking about. She said it was for herself, and that for most of her life she has had difficulty focusing on things that she needed to do, being easily distracted by the other things that needed to be done. She made an arm gesture, moving her arm from one side, to the other side.

We hear of ADHD in relation to children, but there are adults who say that they have ADHD. Some of them have been on medication for many years. I met a man in his late 20’s, who had been on ADHD medication since college, and was gradually weaning off of the medication. I believe he was under the supervision of his physician. People often don’t like the side effects they are experiencing from the medication.

I have written several blogs on ADHD and homeopathy. You can read them here.  Healing ADD/ADHD With Homeopathy  and  More About ADD/ADHD – that ADHD is not a disease

Always The Individual

It always gets back to the individual. It is what bothers the person, and if that affects their life in a way that makes things difficult or limits them, then they may want help. For some, it is just fine. As one woman said to me, she liked it, and wouldn’t change anything. Other times, there are things that bother a person so much that they want help. Perhaps the woman who spoke to me recently feels this way.

When someone comes for homeopathic treatment, the homeopath is always finding out about this person, and how they experience what bothers them, and then giving the homeopathic remedy that is similar to them. Like Cures Like. The remedy is not for the ADHD; it is a remedy for the person.

Over the years, I have seen several adults in my practice who have said that they have ADHD. They talked about feeling very scattered, and not being able to stay focused on the task they were doing at the time. There was more to their case than I am writing here. They did well with the homeopathic remedy that was similar to them.

Healing With Homeopathy

If you feel that some “ADHD” type of symptoms are affecting you, then let’s talk to see how homeopathy can be of help. Either contact me here on this blog, or through my website www.homeopathytoheal.com  I have a 15+ minute complimentary Get Acquainted Phone Call.