Grieving. Experiencing a loss.
We all grieve in are own way, and in our own pace, in our own time, short or long. Always, we need to respect and honor ourselves in how we go through experiencing grief. Honor where we are; how we grieve; how we feel, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually; how we take care of ourselves during this time; and how we reach out to others for help, if and when we need it.
We grieve over a loss. And a loss can be experienced in many different ways. Such as:
- A death – parent, baby, child, relative, friend, pet
- A loss of a job – firing, resigning, downsizing, restructuring
- A move – changing one’s place of residency, a friend moving away, moving to another country, loss of a house/home
- A grown child moving out, or going to college/another city for work/enlisting in the military
- A divorce, separation, or a relationship ending
- A situation, event or even how you respond to something that is different than you thought or wanted it to be
- A change in the political climate
- A loss of income
- An illness – of oneself or a loved one
- A war
- A natural disaster – a friend years ago lost her house in a fire
Years ago, a woman came to me for homeopathy because she was having bouts of diarrhea in the morning. She was also feeling very anxious about herself, her job, and her health. Her husband had died a few years earlier. Their marriage had not been so good at the time of his death. She mentioned that there had been times that she had wished he had had an accident and would die, and then he did die. She was feeling guilty about having had those thoughts about him. She also had experienced other losses in her life: family members who were ill or had died, an abortion, and that she would not have another child.
Along with feeling guilty about her feelings towards her husband, she had other persistent thoughts and feelings. She wondered what people thought of her, and was worried about making a mistake. She attended a women’s support group, and went for other help, but felt that it basically came down to her, to do the work to heal. There was a sense of aloneness about her, and she had difficulty receiving consolation from others.
I gave her the homeopathic remedy Natrum muriaticum. This homeopathic remedy is often used for people who are grieving. Grief was part of why I gave her this remedy, but the remedy also fit the wholeness of her.
I was in touch with her for several months after she took the homeopathic remedy. She was feeling better: the anxiety was better; the diarrhea was better; and she was looking at her feelings regarding her husband in a much more self nurturing way. Not only was she grieving her husband’s death, but also the life she had thought she would have. During our time together, she remarked that just having this space where she could talk and experience what she was feeling deep within, was very helpful.
Not Straight Forward
The process of grieving is not usually straight forward. We may lose someone, something, an opportunity, a way of life that we thought we would have, and many different feelings and responses may occur from this loss. We may experience physical complaints along with the emotions of grief. I think often, when we lose someone we start to look at that relationship, as this woman did, and feelings come up about it, such as guilt, shoulds, responsibility, sadness, blame, anger, fear, happiness and joy.
We may need some help in the process of grieving. We may see a homeopath, a counselor/therapist, a rabbi/minister, a massage therapist, an energy medicine practitioner, an acupuncturist, other healing practitioners, or a good friend. We find our way, taking time for ourselves, doing activities that we enjoy, and being patient with ourselves. We are healing.
If you feel that homeopathy could be of help for you, please contact me here or through my website, www.homeopathytoheal.com. I would be happy to talk with you.