A mother of a patient of mine, asked me about her grandmother, who is taking care of her husband, the grandfather, almost solely. She does have help during the day, but she is the sole person at night. She is anxious and has had a stiff neck. She is in her late 80’s, and is an independent type of person, although her husband has taken care of a lot of things during their marriage, she now needs to take care of more things than she has in the past. My patient (I will call her this) was asking if homeopathy could be of help for her grandmother.
My usual response is yes, come in and let’s see what is bothering you. Unfortunately for this grandmother, it is not feasible for her to come in to see me at this time.
Helping The Situation
As a possibility for help, my patient has picked up an over the counter combination homeopathic remedy. I think it is Calms. It contains very low potencies of five to six different homeopathic remedies. It seems to be helping, somewhat. This is not what I use, or how I work. This may help to a certain level, palliating and easing for a period of time, but not healing deeply.
I would say that in our lives we go through stressful situations. Taking care of a loved one who is sick or less able to care for themselves, can be very taxing to the caregiver. In these kinds of situations, there are some things that won’t change, but the way we look at the situation may change, the way we respond to the situation may change, and the way we accept the situation may change. Homeopathy helps with this. Yes, the Calms tablets are helping this grandmother, but the homeopathic remedy that is similar to what she is experiencing and responding to would be better.
We Do The Best We Can
Most of us do the best that we can, with what we have. I like to be positive. We may be stuck in fear, stuck in concerns about finances, or stuck in a relationship that isn’t positive or supporting. I think we do the best we can with what we have. The homeopathic remedy doesn’t change the situation, but it changes or shifts us within, helping us on all levels – physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We then can do what we need to do. In this situation, with the grandmother taking care of herself, she is also taking care of her husband.
The grandmother has support from her granddaughter, my patient. For caregivers, having someone to talk to, having someone who listens and gives space, going out and doing activities they enjoy, and having someone relieve them from time to time are all important.
My hope is that this grandmother does do well with the over the counter homeopathic combination, and possibly decides to see me, or another homeopath. I find that when I meet with patients, in addition to understanding their suffering and giving them the homeopathic remedy that is similar to them and is healing, that I am there as a support person, as an educator, as a resource, and as a sounding board.
It is a cliché, but true, to take care of someone else, one’s needs to take care of one’s self, first and always. The example we hear so much is that of a parent needing to put on their own oxygen mask first, and then put an oxygen mask on their child. This grandmother taking care of herself will benefit the care of her husband.
I would be happy to talk with anyone who is a caregiver, for a child, a spouse/partner, a loved friend or family member, and is feeling that they need to take care of themselves too. I have a 15+ minute complimentary Get Acquainted Call. Please contact me here or through my website www.homeopathytoheal.com