Stress is a word we hear and use often in describing how we feel or what is happening in our lives. We say things like:
- I feel stressed.
- That was so stressful.
- I need to get control over the stress in my life.
- This stress will make me sick.
- Stress will kill me.
- Here is how to avoid stress.
- How you can I be stress free?
- You/this stress(es) me out!
These all sound as if stress is outside of us, as if it is its own entity doing something to us. And as long as we take care of this outside source of stress, we won’t have it anymore.
It is true that stress is outside of us. But it isn’t doing something to us. There will always be stress, because stress is living life – things happen. Loss of a loved one, loss of a job, financial concerns, changes in the family, divorce, illness – these are just some of the stresses we experience. It could also be an emotional slight. We all have our own sensitivities.
Stress is how we respond to life, to what is happening to us. So it is outside of us. But it is how we are responding to what is happening. This response manifests in symptoms or states of being. In a way, it is our default mechanism, our robotic mode, that we go to when things happen in our lives. It is how we respond when something happens to us. Each person is different in their response.
If you think about, or observe how you are feeling and thinking during stressful times of your life, what comes up? Are there particular physical complaints? Are there emotional symptoms? Mental symptoms ? Do you have the need to fix it right away? Do you go into an avoidance mode? Do you panic? Do you blame others? Blame yourself? Do you become angry? Fearful? Start to cry? This may be your automatic response.
Here are some of the symptoms or responses that people may experience:
Some physical responses could be: headaches, stomachaches, digestive issues, diarrhea, constipation, skin eruptions, eczema, difficulty sleeping, nightmares, no appetite, binge eating, pains in limbs, muscular twitches, frequent colds and infections, breathing difficulties and asthma, styes, cold sores, fatigue, changes in a women’s menstrual cycle, restlessness and more.
Emotional symptoms could be: anxiousness, depression, fears, anger, sadness, revenge, why me?, tearful, dread, loss of confidence, fussiness, irritability, apathy, alienation and isolation, apprehension, worrying, negative thoughts, impulsiveness and more.
Mental symptoms could be: difficulty concentrating, unable to focus, memory loss, difficulty retrieving words, impaired judgment, muddled thinking, indecisiveness, hasty decisions, prone to accidents and more.
Behaviors: changes in ones’ sex drive, drinking more, smoking more, binge eating, using drugs, taking more medication and more.
With the healing from homeopathy, there is a quieting and lessening of the automatic responses, the symptoms and the reactions. So when someone again experiences a stressful situation, their responses or symptoms may be less severe, not last as long, or not be there at all. For example, someone who gets headaches, may have milder headaches; someone who gets diarrhea may not have it as often; and someone who gets panic attacks may not feel panicky at all. The situation will be still happening, and it is stressful, but the person will be able to handle it better, and not experience their automatic responses and symptoms. This would be a good healing.
As a note, we don’t often say that a child is stressed. They are, but we don’t use the word stress when talking about children. There may be situations that they have no control over, such as abuse and mistreatment. The birth may have been difficult and resulted in some physical disability. Behaviors and symptoms on the autistic spectrum may have developed. I want to say that everything that I have written in this blog also applies to children. We will see in children physical symptoms, certain behaviors, fears, difficulties in school, learning challenges, nightmares, and more. Homeopathy helps with this.